See, meanwhile I think she is clearly too self-involved to remember this and reflect. I don't even give her the credit to think she will have the good grace to remember and be ashamed.
Which is why I would wash my hands of the whole situation and save my money. Or go elsewhere with my H and DD that weekend.
Her STBH will ask how Piper is at the weddin and it will take every single ounce of my good grace to not immediately choke him.
And ommmmmmmmggggg nothing is more annoying than a bride's demands being spun as a favor to guests or the wedding party. "Our friends are using it as an excuse to leave the baby at home and cut loose!!!!!!!" Well, great. But I can get a babysitter and cut loose whenever the fuck I want. Don't act like you're giving me a special gift unless you are arranging and paying for child care.
Fucking EXACTLY. Don't presume I want to 'cut loose' or that my kid will prevent others from doing so. Fuck you.
This is like the best thing ever though. I love going out kid free to somewhere my friends brought their kids and just enjoying that I don't have to deal with the inevitable melt downs. It's cathartic lol! So really you'd be doing her friends a favour bringing your DD.
Post by yourmother on Mar 25, 2016 10:54:12 GMT -5
I woukd respectfully decline the invite and then somehow make sure every single family finds out why you aren't coming. Let the drama happen where everyone is pissed at the bride and groom and still don't attend.
I realize this is very passive aggressive and a touch immature, but at this point I wouldn't care.
I woukd respectfully decline the invite and then somehow make sure every single family finds out why you aren't coming. Let the drama happen where everyone is pissed at the bride and groom and still don't attend.
I realize this is very passive aggressive and a touch immature, but at this point I wouldn't care.
I've not entirely dismissed this possibility. My family (dad, brother, and the rest of her sisters) are all PISSED.
Fucking EXACTLY. Don't presume I want to 'cut loose' or that my kid will prevent others from doing so. Fuck you.
This is like the best thing ever though. I love going out kid free to somewhere my friends brought their kids and just enjoying that I don't have to deal with the inevitable melt downs. It's cathartic lol! So really you'd be doing her friends a favour bringing your DD.
Post by barefootcontessa on Mar 25, 2016 12:28:02 GMT -5
I don't know. It sounds like she does not plan well and is overwhelmed as a result. There is no way any of my kids would have walked down the aisle at just a year. I would honestly be relieved. Is there no opportunity for you to see your family other than the actually wedding?
A few years back both of my sons were in a wedding (they were 5 and 4) and were not invited to the reception. I had to drop them off with a sitter my cousin found, along with my other sons (they were 2 and 1). We spent a ton of money on that wedding (each boys' tux was $175) plus flights and hotels. We did not find out until the last minute about the older boys not being at the reception. But even if we knew ahead of time, we still would have gone.
I don't know. It sounds like she does not plan well and is overwhelmed as a result. There is no way any of my kids would have walked down the aisle at just a year. I would honestly be relieved. Is there no opportunity for you to see your family other than the actually wedding?
A few years back both of my sons were in a wedding (they were 5 and 4) and were not invited to the reception. I had to drop them off with a sitter my cousin found, along with my other sons (they were 2 and 1). We spent a ton of money on that wedding (each boys' tux was $175) plus flights and hotels. We did not find out until the last minute about the older boys not being at the reception. But even if we knew ahead of time, we still would have gone.
Usually there would be plenty of family time, but SS happened to pick the same weekend (same DAY) as the graduation of my dad's current wife's son (so my Step-brother, different marriage). So my dad, step-mother and associated siblings will be doing graduation things until the wedding, then again all day Sunday. We were invited to the Sunday things, but then we'd fly home that afternoon. We were also invited to the rehearsal dinner apparently, but she sent the invite to an email address I've not used in 8 years.... so I got it after I booked tickets, and we get in too late for it.
If it was a normal weekend, Donald and Piper would be coming and I'd figure something out, but because of the other craziness, it wasn't worth it.
I woukd respectfully decline the invite and then somehow make sure every single family finds out why you aren't coming. Let the drama happen where everyone is pissed at the bride and groom and still don't attend.
I realize this is very passive aggressive and a touch immature, but at this point I wouldn't care.
I've not entirely dismissed this possibility. My family (dad, brother, and the rest of her sisters) are all PISSED.
Good! (sorry, I'm vindictive like that.)
I'm voting for a combination of @notquiteblushing's idea and Operation Get Smashed w/BFF. Start drinking before the wedding, take/upload/tag said picture, then continue to get plowed immediately after the ceremony. Or hell, pack a flask and make no secret of taking sips out of it during the ceremony.
I've not entirely dismissed this possibility. My family (dad, brother, and the rest of her sisters) are all PISSED.
Good! (sorry, I'm vindictive like that.)
I'm voting for a combination of @notquiteblushing 's idea and Operation Get Smashed w/BFF. Start drinking before the wedding, take/upload/tag said picture, then continue to get plowed immediately after the ceremony. Or hell, pack a flask and make no secret of taking sips out of it during the ceremony.
The ceremony is 7 minutes... super casual guys! Your kids would totally ruin the super casual vibe.
I'm voting for a combination of @notquiteblushing 's idea and Operation Get Smashed w/BFF. Start drinking before the wedding, take/upload/tag said picture, then continue to get plowed immediately after the ceremony. Or hell, pack a flask and make no secret of taking sips out of it during the ceremony.
The ceremony is 7 minutes... super casual guys! Your kids would totally ruin the super casual vibe.
You know what wouldn't ruin the super casual vibe? Drinking.