I have my annual PCP visit today. I brought a list. Isn’t aging great?
I need to make an eye doctor appointment because all of a sudden this year I can’t see when driving at night, just like my grandparents, lol. I’m not ready for readers but that’s probably close too.
I realized last night that I forgot to take my bcp on Monday. I doubled up but am really hoping I don’t have bleeding or anxiety from the disruption (I take it mostly to control hormonal anxiety.)
My kids are spending the night at my in-laws and I’d really like to have a relaxing couple of days but have so much left to do to prep for Christmas. My mom and sister are flighting but my mom apologized and both are coming over for Christmas Eve. My mom is acting totally mopey so should be interesting.
7costanza, that sounds like a truly horrible experience. You poor thing!
I deleted because I felt like it was TMI, lol. It was horrible! The worst was that I still had to get on another connecting flight. I seriously considered rebooking and finding a hotel near the airport for the night but had gotten through the worst of it by the time the first flight landed (and was already delayed by a day getting home.)
Can the kids get together independently of warring factions? Anywhere that's neutral ground as an alternative? Hopefully adults can not be asses for a few hours, but I know in many families, mine included, that can prove impossible.
Possibly, but I would have to be the one to initiate, plan and host and I don’t know if I have it in me, lol. My mom can definitely be civil for a few hours but even suggesting that my sister try to set the fight aside for the sake of the kids at Christmas will set her off so I’m just letting her decide if she wants to attend.
I’m planning to redecorate my office area (half of a big open space) over the next couple weeks and can’t wait. The entire downstairs has been taken over by stuff my H and sons are into. The only space I have for myself in the house is a tiny corner desk I work from, meanwhile my H doesn’t work from home and has two desks and is slowly filling all cabinet and shelf space downstairs with legos and games. I ordered a new mantel, made H consolidate into one desk and am going to sell the giant TV.
My mom and sister are in the middle of a huge fight and my sister probably won’t come to Christmas which is super disappointing. It’s 90% my mom’s fault and I’m so annoyed with her, but I’ve had so many difficult conversations at work lately that I don’t have the mental energy to talk to either of them about it. I need to see if there’s anything fun going on on Christmas Eve so my kids will be distracted from missing their cousin.
We give daycare and school teachers a $50 gift card, $20 to the milkman, $100 to the cleaner (which is a little less than the cost of a bi-weekly cleaning), but nothing else.
I’m glad it went well! What did you end up with? And was the asshole from last year there?
I got slippers, a head massager thing and a bottle of wine, which I’m fine with. Mostly I was happy someone liked what I brought. And the asshole wasn’t there! So it was a success all around lol
My dad has a bunch of health issues but thank god lives with his girlfriend who does 100% of his care. He was a pretty bad dad so I am glad I don’t have to deal with much. If she passes before him I guess he will just move into assisted living. He’s on a very limited budget and options may be limited but I won’t contribute. His mind is still very sharp so I don’t expect I’ll need to manage his finances or anything like that.
My mom is 70 and generally healthy, though I suspect has an eating disorder (which predates any aging issues) which has made her frail and she can barely hear. I drove behind her leaving a restaurant the other day and watched her drive up onto a sidewalk and almost take out a fire hydrant. I let her drive me to brunch a couple months ago and never again. My sister and niece still ride with her frequently and I worry for all of them.
My in-laws moved into a senior community a few years ago and have a great setup for aging in place. I hope to have a similar setup when the time comes!
I’m in a fight with our city council over the lack of sidewalks and am so irritated. They won’t put them on one side of the street because it’s reserved for horses. We live in suburbia and there are maybe 10 horses around, and none near where I want the sidewalk. I’m sure there were many more when the city incorporated like 60 years ago and there are a few loud boomers who have been here forever and love the idea we’re a horse town. The one council member I emailed pretty much said too expensive and I have horses so won’t change the legislation. They also fight tooth and nail to not allow anything other than one single family home on a big lot. Ugh
Would the sidewalks be on land owned by the Township, or in front of private property?
It’s unclear but there is (muddy uneven) room for these non-existent horses so I assume there’s at least some kind of easement if it’s not public land.
I’m in a fight with our city council over the lack of sidewalks and am so irritated. They won’t put them on one side of the street because it’s reserved for horses. We live in suburbia and there are maybe 10 horses around, and none near where I want the sidewalk. I’m sure there were many more when the city incorporated like 60 years ago and there are a few loud boomers who have been here forever and love the idea we’re a horse town. The one council member I emailed pretty much said too expensive and I have horses so won’t change the legislation. They also fight tooth and nail to not allow anything other than one single family home on a big lot. Ugh
We like to do crafts next to each other. I have different sewing/painting projects and he likes to paint mini figures. Sometimes we’ll watch something we don’t have to pay close attention to and chat about it while listening. Dateline is good for this since the audio is more important than video.
We also have a hot tub and like to hang out in there (naked, but doesn’t always lead to sex, its sometimes just fun and intimate.)
This is the first year I don’t have to buy gifts for any adult other than stocking stuffers for my H, and it’s like a weight has been lifted. We’re going to a Christmas market and trolly in a nearby town that has a bunch of cute shops and I’m so looking forward to browsing around for just myself, and not being constantly on the lookout for gifts for other people!
I would do things differently now, but I had never really dreamed about my wedding. We were young and broke, my in-laws gave us money but we used it for a down payment, and my parents were divorcing and not willing to help beyond I think splitting the cost of the cake, so we did an afternoon wedding with no alcohol. The venue was beautiful and we didn’t go into debt for any of it, but I bet some of our guests complained, lol.
I find it weird that famous people have to set up P.O. Boxes to accept packages and letters. Why do fans send gifts to them?
I follow a farmer near me. She has a few famous show horses. She does a gift unboxing video a few times a week. It’s good for the animals, terrible paintings or drawings, clothes, gift cards, etc. it’s fucking weird. I am one more gift unboxing before I stop following
Multiple people a week are sending gifts to these horses?! Or are they to the horse farmer? Either way that is so weird and fascinating.
For some reason I feel like my 8 year old nephew needs a kids metal detector. My sister didn't say it was a bad idea but I just can't get it out of my head lol.
Do it! My son got one for his 7th or 8th birthday and it was a huge hit!
I did it through Created Colorful! I will say that people comment on my features more when I'm wearing my colors, and it's nice to have when I'm shopping.
I just looked at this company and might do it! It’s quite a bit cheaper than the in-person option through House of Color.
I had it done in the 80s, Color Me Beautiful, I think. I was about 19 and had never considered how colors work differently for different people. Maybe I'm a moron, maybe I just didn't have the "styling" gene or skill set, but it was incredibly helpful to me going forward.
My stepmom, stepsister, and I all went together. I think my stepmom paid for it - I sure wouldn't have had the $$ to do it.
I don’t think I have the styling gene! I end up in baggy sweaters and leggings 90% of the time, then cringe when I see pics because I look like a total frump.
waverly That sounds like it’s probably more what I need, especially if they could help me dress for my post-kids body.
Thanks everyone! I’m going to play around with some color wheels and see if there’s a obvious “season” for me before I shell out the money for a professional
Has anybody done this? Was it worth it? My mom did it in the 80s and I’m thinking about doing it now through House of Color but can’t tell if it’s like an MLM thing? There’s a few people near me who offer it for ~$300, which seems kind of steep. But I really want to revamp my wardrobe and have no idea what I’m doing, lol.
I bought a cheap rowing machine on Amazon and it should be here on Thursday. My H has a stationary bike I hate using, so I'm hoping the rowing machine will be enjoyable since it’s a full body workout. I really want to increase both my strength and endurance/stamina.
I went to Whole Foods, Target, and Costco today and the crowds were much better than I was expecting, especially Costco! I grabbed a fresh pumpkin pie, wine and a couple other things and didn’t even have to wait in line. Lots of people with similar (pie and wine) carts, lol
SusanBAnthony I have a house rule that only one device with sound can be on at once, so that would drive me crazy. Can you offer to run errands or something to get a break?
Also my mom and MIL fall all over each other with fake compliments every time they see each other and it fills me with rage. And the men will do nothing but talk about sports which I have zero interest in and find so rude that they dominate the conversation with. My mom’s H negs her constantly and I’m this close to calling him out on it, but which would ruin dinner so I will bite my tongue. I really need an attitude adjustment before tomorrow, lol.
I booked a couple nights at a national park over spring break and just got an email they’re doing a second night free promo so I cancelled and rebooked, saving like $250. I already paid one night deposit on the first booking so it’s like the trip is free! (girl math lol)
We’re going to my in laws with my mom and her husband and my sister’s family. I don’t like my mom’s H and my BIL is in a financial and possibly drug (or maybe gambling?) spiral, and lying about it like crazy. I’ve gotten calls from collection agencies looking for my BIL and their cell phones were shut off recently. My sister seems to either believe him or is presenting a united front. My MIL told me she doesn’t want to be around him so that should be fun…
I’m also just in a funk and need to figure out how to snap out of it. I probably need to cut down on screen time and start exercising as a start but a long weekend seems like a bad time to start that. lol