My sister is the executrix of her will and was her power of attorney. she was aunt's godchild. Its so upsetting bc she didn't talk to either of her siblings in YEARS. Like. They know this is a mistake/oversight.
I don't know. People get weird around money and death. They will disinherit people closest to them and give large sums to people they've never met or had troubled relationships. If that is what her documents say, then she may have meant for them to get some and you to get some.
(DH and his brother were named as the only beneficiaries of a great aunt whose niece had provided years of in home care. Shitty move but definitely deliberate. Neither of them had ever met her. In the end, her lawyer fees, debts and funeral costs meant they actually inherited around $50 each. In this case, your aunt may have meant the money as a last way to make amends with your father and aunt.)
Debts and medical expenses of the deceased usually come out of the estate before the remainder is distributed to heirs. The estate bequeathed to heirs is made up whatever assets remain after her debts have been paid.
The insurance money, in contrast, doesn't belong to her estate unless the estate was named as a beneficiary.
She probably didn't enter a contract for the funeral, so it isn't her debt. That is paid for by whomever wants it and agrees to pay for it. That could be the insurance beneficiaries, or the heirs, or someone else. Or there doesn't have to be one.
I’m doing a demo, and I need to think about questions or thoughts students may present.
So please answer these questions, no judgements if you don’t know, your thoughts or ideas are what I need, and they don’t have to be correct!
1) Do you know how a vacuum bag for clothes or food work? 2) What do you think it means to vacuum seal clothes or food? 3) How do you think that relates to chemistry or things we’ve studied in class thus far?
1 + 2) Maybe, I guess? I personally have never used one, but I'd think something about negative pressure to remove the air from around the item (leaving the plastic in contact with the item), then the two layers of plastic are melted at fused together to seal it.
3) (a) Oxidation plays a big role in decay so removing oxygen should slow that process.
(b) I'm guessing if you vacuum seal the wrong things, contact between the plastic container and the item could either effect the item (as plastic leeches in) or the container (if, say, an acid in the food reacts with the plastic and breaks it down).
(c) Oxygen is also necessary for all living things, so while the standard way to stop mold/mildew growth in packaged goods is to include one of those desicant (sp?) packages (again - chemistry) I would think removing oxygen slows the grow of microbes like mold as well. And respiration is a kind of chemistry
We thought maybe our newer dogs would like the beach too and we had to take them on vacation so we went to Assateague. They were intrigued by the wild ponies but hated the ocean. We took a different combo to Cape May, still no ocean love. Our one dog had been on both trips and looked betrayed the second time.
I don’t think we are going to prioritize the Pacific lol
Ha! I was like, wouldn’t be ironic if they drove all this way and the dog hated it? Our ocean is frigid too and the riptides can be dangerous.
Look puppy! pretend that you can see more than fog. Come play in frigid waves in biting wind, get stung by a jelly fish and get a rash from being rolled in the sand by a wave.
Your MIL definitely seems like the type to take her dog to the no dogs part of the beach.
Yeah. For all my "limits" on graphic novels, we still own about 100, including half of everything Dav Pilkey ever wrote. But with the library, they have access to many more.
I just ask that 1 in 10 books they read are some sort of challenge (by topic, language level, or not a graphic novel, etc.). And by "challenge" I mean at grade level for my 3rd grader who can read 5th grade books but prefers "emerging reader" stuff.
Do you think it’s the topic or the ease they like if the emerging reader books?
I think it's a mix - they like silly things, they are young for their age, and they like the comfort of grabbing something like Baloney and Friends knowing it won't be emotionally challenging.
The books they like best also tend to de-emphasize gender and gender norms (who knows how that jellyfish and narwhal identify?). Books aimed at middle grade kids usually only do that as a deliberate choice. (Many silly ones can lean into a certain "rambunctious boys" narrative). I grab every book with a non-binary character I can find, but it is slimmer pickings.
Aw I get the limiting graphic novels because they are read very quickly but I am positive my daughter wouldn't be the reader she is today without them. They were all she would read in 2nd/3rd grade and she still enjoys them as comfort books. When we do book purges they are always the ones that stay.
Oh for sure. I more mean, when we go to the bookstore (we have one right down the street), and I give my kids a budget. I'll say something like, "you may buy two books, but one has to be NOT a graphic novel." Even when I say that though, the used book shelf is a treasure trove and I don't limit anything from there. It's not uncommon for us to walk home with one new chapter book and five used graphic novels.
Yeah. For all my "limits" on graphic novels, we still own about 100, including half of everything Dav Pilkey ever wrote. But with the library, they have access to many more.
I just ask that 1 in 10 books they read are some sort of challenge (by topic, language level, or not a graphic novel, etc.). And by "challenge" I mean at grade level for my 3rd grader who can read 5th grade books but prefers "emerging reader" stuff.
My kid's ADHD symptoms are out of control. The self harm has stopped and the more ASD style symptoms are down, but the movement and energy level are out of control. (knocked the chorus teacher's stand down. HTF do you do that from across the room on the risers where you were supposed to be sitting? Obviously not in their seat.) It's whack a mole.
I wonder if there is something about oncoming puberty that needs something coded from their missing chunk of DNA. (missing instructions for how to build something? When to turn it on/off? I know there is a crucial protein in that missing section. blarg.) What if the heart problems they have escaped so far are going to come up? Okay. I'm clearly not going to be able to sleep tonight.
And they don't qualify for speech services, because being at the 4% level for a measurement and 9% for a bunch of others isn't enough. they need to be below 7% on two. The same people who are telling me my kid is out of control are also telling me there is nothing they can do because they aren't testing low enough. Blarg.
during covid, some wealthy, white, Trumpy types from CA specifically headed to states they thought of as more ‘free’, less ‘woke’ and that had fewer covid restrictions. The places they landed aren’t always happy to have them.
During and post Covid, many people left CA and other HCOL places to live elsewhere given the new W@H options/flexibility.
Yes- plenty of people moved to other places for cost of living, to be closer to family, to get outside more, to have space for a horse, to ski, to surf, whatever. I'm not saying everyone who moved was like her.
I'm saying people like her who want to move because they have been caught being racist/homophobic/libertarian assholes, move to red states hoping for a more welcoming environment. (where in reality, I'm sure it's just new people who also think they are racist assholes).
I see she moved to Montana. That tracks. (There is a specific style of rich person leaving the Bay Area for Montana and Wyoming).
Sorry wut?
during covid, some wealthy, white, Trumpy types from CA specifically headed to states they thought of as more ‘free’, less ‘woke’ and that had fewer covid restrictions. The places they landed aren’t always happy to have them.
I only buy bath sheet size. Right now, ours can from Costco and are doing fine. They have a really distinctive weave and look nothing like the options at the Costco website now.
I posted before I saw your post. For example, I’ve seen DD read the regular Baby-sitters Club books so I’m not going to spend money at Barnes and Nobles for the graphic novel versions of the Baby-sitters Club.
What about the library? See if you can get them from interlibrary loans. That is what we do.
I have a limit on which graphic novels I'll pay for (Graphic Novels can be a great way to handle big subjects. Something like White Bird (holocaust), When Stars Are Scattered (Refugees), Go With the Flow (Menstruation), Catherine's War (Holocaust again), Gender Queer, or Persopolis (Iranian revolution) are completely different from Narwhal and Jelly (which are adorable, but not substantive). But I'm much more open with library books.
I don't buy anything my kids would finish between library check out and getting home. lol.
Sort of? You have to mix in books you haven't read before with ones you have, and not everything can be graphic novels, and if it gives you nightmares you can't read it.
I would also say no to anything racist, misogynist, homophobic, etc. Censoring for domestic violence and rape makes sense to me.
Campermom's post about the mental reset from bracing cold got me thinking. What are your tips and tricks for for managing anxiety or other things?
A few weeks ago I learned a trick that has been much more effective than I expected. I don't know if I can explain it well online but I'll try. You push your palms together hard (or hold them firm like this and pull out at the elbows: www.reddit.com/r/whatisthisthing/comments/6ky3bl/what_is_the_significance_of_this_gesture_while/) While also wiggling your toes in your shoes and taking a big breath in. There is something about the simultaneous tension and release of tension that really helps reset me. I've even got my kid doing it.
If she learned from that moment right now that is her take away and she's likely to do better because she wants to do better. If she hears about it from her manager, her take away will be that she got in trouble and that will be her primary motivation (rather than an intrinsic sense that she wants to be a better person in the world). The former is more likely to stick and more likely to spill over into better in her personal life.
(I face something similar but different with my kid's pronouns all the time. My kid is often the first "they" child an adult has worked with. During our conversations when my kid isn't there, sometimes people slip up. When I acknowledge that it's a learning curve and I see they are trying, they often relax and actually make fewer mistakes.)
I made an appointment with a new primary care physician, so now I get to be anxious about that appointment for three weeks, lol.
twinsies! (Well, mine is a ‘found a lump but it probably is t anything’ mammogram I just scheduled in two weeks. But I literally opened this thread to stop perserevating about it. Lol.
I believe bivalent booster uptake is still fairly low, considering, even among the most at-risk populations based on age, and that this is a factor in the number of daily deaths we're still seeing. [
What's your French onion soup recipe (if you make it yourself)? I'm still finding one I like.
My week: Sunday: beef stew Monday: frozen lasagna Tuesday: Kevin's chicken Wednesday: Eat at the kid group meeting Thursday: Brussels sprouts plus something else....
That was me the first day of COVID a few weeks ago. Things that helped manage the cough: drinking a ton of water, mint tea, NOT the "natural" cough syrup I picked up (it made things worse). a spoonful of honey slowly dissolving on my tongue, getting a better inhaler. Paxlovid (maybe? I don't know if this added to the cough suppression beyond the better inhaler. That made the biggest difference. I went from not taking a good breath in 4 days (and coughing when I tried) to being able to breathe freely while awake more often than not. But that probably doesn't translate generally.