I don't mean to be ignorant, but what housing policies and practices promote segregation, and how do they do so? Are we certain that other factors such as poverty, gentrification, and white flight are not more responsible for segregation? Or is gentrification one of the policies in question (through municipalities granting licenses and such)? I don't know-- the regulations sound like they could be wading into No Child Left Behind territory, which was just so, so ineffective.
NitaX I bet you would be interested in this article and know the answers to my questions.
Re: NCLB comparison, I thought the same thing when I quickly read this earlier today-that it basically sounds like a bunch of reporting but not actual solutions.
my DD weaned like this at 13 months. refused before bed one night, the next morning i offered and she stayed on for a couple of minutes. that night she refused, and then next morning nursed for a few minutes. the third night i didn't offer and she didn't ask. the following morning i didn't offer and she didn't ask. She was done. at about 14.5 months she was sick and made the sign for nursing but I told her the milk was all gone. she was fine with that explanation. i was happy with the way it ended-it was sudden, which caught me off guard, but EASY
love, love, love well fed and well fed 2. I would be looking into the whole 30 cookbook that just published recently as well as cookbooks from the domestic man
Not sure how old your DD is but my DD was 3 when DS was born and she went through 2-3 really bad weeks. Crying a lot (more than not), seemed really sensitive to anything-basically an emotional, crying, mess. Once she was over it though she went back to her normal self and now I hear her telling DS all the time how he is her best friend and it would be so boring without him around
I think closely-protein, more veggies, 2 types each meal, and healthy fat. Some days are higher fat days than others. I'm guessing the portions must be too big. But I'm hungry after working out for about an hour each day
Next question: are you including the pre and post workout meals?
No. Also not eating breakfast-usually I eat my dinner around 10:30 and then dinner around 7
I think closely-protein, more veggies, 2 types each meal, and healthy fat. Some days are higher fat days than others. I'm guessing the portions must be too big. But I'm hungry after working out for about an hour each day
I know that no one here needs to read this, but a friend shared it on FB and I thought it was a good read and maybe worth posting in response to negative FB comments (if you have any). More than anything, what really hit home to me after reading is why conversations on this topic are so important. I always thought addressing issues surrounding race made things about race, but I have realized the error of that thinking.
Heritage, Hate and and the Juvenilization of Free Speech
I am a Southerner. I have lived in 3 cities in my life; 18 years in a rural town in North Alabama, 5 in Atlanta and 12 in Birmingham, Alabama. I grew up middle class, white in a small racially divided town. I grew up in a culture where rebel flags were flown off the back of pick up trucks, they were worn on hats and raised on makeshift poles in people’s yards. I was taught that these were symbols of heritage, reminders of who we were and who we are.
I grew up with parents that used the word “nigger” in regular conversation, when they were angry and when they talked about the people who lived in “pepper town”.
One of my earliest memories of my dad is him coming home from work covered in wisps of cotton, a machinist in the local cotton mill, wearing a white t-shirt and his black, fishnet work hat embossed with a rebel flag. I remember being very young and carefully helping him place a bumper sticker on his lime green, late 70’s beat up pick-up truck.
The sticker was a rebel flag with the words “Keep It Flyin”
I remember being in 4th grade and calling another little boy, an African American 5th grader, “nigger” because that is what he was in my world. A nigger.
This is my pedigree.
The school principal, who was also my baseball and basketball coach heard me say this and called me into his office.
“Why did you call him that?” he asked
“Because that is what he is,” I told him with out flinching.
“What do you think that means?” he asked.
“It is another word for a black,” I said (it is important to note that we did not call them “black people.” I think subconsciously that was a little too humanizing for us. Calling them “blacks” was more simple, more to the point and noted them for what they were, a color not a person.
My principal spent the next two weeks with me (in detention) talking with me about that word, what it means and what it does to people when they hear it. He spent 2 weeks, every day with me in his office talking, working through these ideas and helping me understand that words and symbols carry deep, impacting meaning and they should be handled with great care and respect.
He was my salvation.
He saved me from the depravity of racism, the ignorance of inequality and the suffocating quicksand of hatred.
Years later when I realized what I had done, how I had been raised to think and who I was going to be, my stomach sank.
Thursday morning I felt that sinking all over again. I felt it because I began to hear the voices of my childhood in the comment sections, the Facebook posts and in the justifying soliloquies of the defenders of what they call “heritage.” Outrage over the rebel flag began almost immediately as the state of South Carolina lowered all of its flags to half mast, all except the rebel flag. The racial fissure in our country’s bedrock began to pull apart again. People talked of heritage, history, southern pride. Posts were shared explaining in great detail how the civil war was not about slavery, “only 1/4 to 1/3 of southerners even owned slaves” cites one story.
I love how the word “only” is used to try subdue the gag reflex of the soul.
Contrary to what you might think, I am not here to argue with these historical claims. I really do not care what they “historically” may or may not have stood for. Are rebel flags appropriate? Sure, in movies, museums and history books that recount the civil war it make sense because it has context. Which is the problem we are facing today, context.
In graduate school I took this incredible class on the study of semiotics. Semiotics is a discipline that studies symbols, words and their adoptive and adaptive meanings. One of the primary principles of semiotics is that there is never a pure meaning that any symbol carries intrinsically. In other words, a symbol’s meaning is always being redefined, interpreted and evolving.
Take the swastika for example. It was a symbol that was very prevalent in eastern religions and even early Christianity. You can find it in unbelievable amounts of ancient art, pottery and architecture. It was benign and decorative.
That is the heritage and history of the swastika.
That is until it was adopted by the SS and Hitler’s Nazi Germany. It is a symbol and the definition of that symbol changed, and changed dramatically. It was assigned a new definition, a definition of hate and genocide.
Here is the problem with the “it’s not racist, it is a symbol of our heritage” argument. It makes assumptions about the static nature of symbols that are simply wrong.
The meaning of symbols are fluid, they are never static. When a majority of people understand the symbol to point to another definition then the definition of that symbol changes.
When KKK members adopted it as the symbol of their hate, it changed.
When it was waved proudly as a banner for segregationists, it changed.
When it became synonymous with burning crosses, white hoods and ropes thrown over magnolia trees looped around lifeless brown necks. It. Changed.
When a 21 year old young man from South Carolina writes a manifesto on his website proclaiming in horrifying detail his hatred for all minorities, posts pictures clutching in one hand the rebel flag and a gun in the other just before he goes out and kills 9 innocent people in a prayer meeting… it changed.
If you want to wear the “stars and bars” on a t-shirt or hat, be my guest.
If you want to fly it proudly on your lawn, go ahead.
If you want to make it a law that it has to fly on the lawn of your state capitol, feel free.
But know this…
When you do this you are throwing your lot in with racists, segregationists, white supremacists, neo-nazis, bigots and murderers. You will be counted, not among a group of people supposedly celebrating “heritage” but among those whose lips drip with the venom of hate.
You have free speech, that is true, but that speech is not without consequence. Consequences like what we saw a few days ago in Charleston.
Let me be clear the rebel flag did not cause that man to kill those 9 people meeting for prayer and worship. It is just the primary symbol of a sick and vile sub-culture that produces people like that man who killed those 9 people meeting for prayer and worship.
I know that culture; I am a refugee and dissenter from it and an organizer against it.
I thought you were supposed to eat till you're full, but i've gained weight this week. I have lost 30 pounds on it in the past, last year, doing it often during the week, less on the weekends, but i've been following it strictly, and working out, and have gained. It's hard not to feel defeated by that. Also, I know I know about checking the scale.
I just have to keep hoping something meaningful will come from all of this-the public becoming aware of police mistreatment against minorities, inequality in the criminal justice system, the charleston murders, etc. At the same time, I am so disgusted we need a movement at all.
This has been the worst I have seen on my facebook. The southern rednecks are really showing their colors right now. "Free speech, free speech, oh doesn't anyone care about my free speech? Look at those gayz with their rainbow flag! Same thing! It's all about pride."
Can I speak for my DH? He hasn't indicated he feels the same way as you, OP, but he said he almost wishes the flag wasn't coming down b/c all these politicians will be getting praise when a week ago they were on the complete opposite side of the issue. Or, in Lindsey Graham's case, he said one thing in Friday and had a completely different tune on Monday. it doesn't feel authentic to him
I feel like in SC at least, the flag is even more symbolic of racism and hate b/c it was put on the state house as an opposition to the civil rights movement. I would think it was 100% about racism and hate regardless, but in a way, I could possibly see a teensy, tiny bit of the heritage claim if it had flown on the state house since the conclusion of the civil war. I would still think it needs to come down (and should never have gone up, actually), but the fact that it was put up on the state house as opposition to civil rights makes it worse for me.
It kind of goes along with the ignorance argument, though. Like the people who claim the US is a Christian nation, because "One nation under GOD," which was added in the 1950s, so...
Also, even before TNC's awesome research, I have read SC's articles of succession, and slavery being the reason they left the union was clear as day. Don't come at me with the economic reasons BS. It all boils down to slaves being good for the economy, and there's your economic reason!
I know their secession was about slavery and nothing to do with "state's right" or economy. I'm glad the flag is coming down but like I said, it never should have been up in the first place.
I feel like in SC at least, the flag is even more symbolic of racism and hate b/c it was put on the state house as an opposition to the civil rights movement. I would think it was 100% about racism and hate regardless, but in a way, I could possibly see a teensy, tiny bit of the heritage claim if it had flown on the state house since the conclusion of the civil war. I would still think it needs to come down (and should never have gone up, actually), but the fact that it was put up on the state house as opposition to civil rights makes it worse for me.
I went to school in SC so I see a lot of the news stories popping up on friend's FB. The state newspaper was posting about it and the comments are just Out there. Someone was like "if we do this, what will they ask for next". Wtf?
I know. You give them an inch and next thing you know people are going to expect police to stop shooting African American teenagers, some changes to the institutional racism in this country, and more. It's madness!
I know to never read the comments but geez, it's hard to not read them and feel freaking hopeless
I went to school in SC so I see a lot of the news stories popping up on friend's FB. The state newspaper was posting about it and the comments are just Out there. Someone was like "if we do this, what will they ask for next". Wtf?
That led to his rabbit hole of this other crazy lady in Twitter who might be like lys. But I think she's worse than lys. Anyway, she has some tweet about charleston talking about forgiveness and also about how South Carolinians didn't get angry line in Baltimore and ferguson. She's just gross. I'd put her name here but don't want to draw her to the board
Also, WSJ had an article talking about how forgiveness is what is needed in every situation. It really rubbed me the wrong way. I read it and found myself asking why they should have to forgive.