M sure seems like she's getting involved by telling you all this.
She is, but to keep me from getting blind sided. I don't really trust either of them, but I don't think that M would be gossiping back. I worked with her much longer, J has only been here a year.
My h says to schedule a meeting with J and my manager and try to hash it out, but my manager hasn't mentioned anything to me just yet. But her MO is to gather shit, then have a meeting and present it all at once - not letting me know that anything is wrong up to that point.
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 18, 2014 14:05:28 GMT -5
This is going to be long.
I work in a small branch – four people. Specifically, four women. I am having a problem with a coworker (J), and I don’t know how to address it, and it is making me feel like shit.
I’m not a total fuck up at work, but I do have my moments. One of these moments was about a month ago where my husband and I were having a melt down (seriously considered and almost agreed to divorce), and it happened while at work. My manager was out of the office, and I kept to my office most of the day because I was visibly upset and did not want to face members that way. Apparently, she was rolling her eyes and gossiping with my other coworker (M, who is not a gossip, but doesn’t get involved with this stuff). In terms of leadership, when my manager is out of the office, I am the next highest, and the other two ladies work the front line.
When my manager returned to the office, I guess J went and told her that “firelight had another episode with her h, and she didn’t come out all day”. My manager grilled M about it, but she stayed non committal.
This is only the most recent in a long list of things that J has done.
What gets me is that J is the WORST employee – does not give a shit about the job, can’t make her goals, and she hates it here. But she is my manager’s favorite (my manager leaves lots of room for improvement as well), and anything J says must be true. When J actually gets caught doing shit, her respons? “*giggle* oops, my bad *giggle*”.
I fucking hate her, and I don’t know how to handle this. I am extremely non confrontational, and my manager is biased towards her. The only reason I know half of this stuff is because M tells me before my manager can to give me a heads up.
What the fuck do I do? I’ve never had issues with coworkers before, and I hate this.
I'm not sure that this is all that flattering on the mannequin. All that business around the belly could be hit or miss. I like the one with the city that you posted!
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 14, 2014 15:25:59 GMT -5
We had Lego favors at my wedding (I made little kits and an instruction booklet that puts together a heart ornament - we had a December wedding), while fun, and people enjoyed it, I think food would have gone over better and been MUCH less time consuming.
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 14, 2014 15:20:01 GMT -5
I would LOVE to. I've already signed in, the place is ten minutes from home. It's not a bad seminar, but the idea off having the house to myself is tantalizing.
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 14, 2014 9:16:50 GMT -5
Thanks everyone! Here's a picture of what I have so far. The lighting is bad, but I'm happy with it four my first project. RockNVoll yup, I'm in the bay area, south bay. Where were you when you were here?
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 13, 2014 13:48:38 GMT -5
Hello,
I recently learned to knit, and am currently working on a baby blanket for my 6 month old nephew as a Christmas gift. It is currently 24x24, but I know that I need to make it larger. On average, what should the dimensions be for a baby blanket? For the record, the baby is growing fast and is likely to be tall since my brother is 6'4". He was 10lbs, 21in at birth.
I'll bet he was in his early 70's. I had to work with a chucklefuck like that at the polls for both the primary and the general elections. He was an absolute idiot and most of us ignored him and didn't call him on his shit because of his age.
Close - 64. I work at an "at work" branch, so he still works and everything. However, in a largely male dominated field, so I don't think anyone really calls him on this shit.
What's really disgusting is that when somebody DOESN'T laugh at that joke, the reaction of the person telling it usually isn't "oh, maybe that really isn't funny after all" but "oh, that person must be one of those super-sensitive feminists with no sense of humor"
Or go on to tell another horrible one. "Hmm, maybe she doesn't like domestic violence jokes. I know! She's probably one who loves racist ones! I have the perfect one..."
I bet it would've felt good to say that instead. Holy ick!
I would have loved that, but he was borrowing his own money.
Ugh, I just feel so gross.. My coworker told me she's never seen him do that - he's usually extremely reserved and considerate. Great, so I bring out the crazy in people. Wonderful.
Post by firelight1210 on Nov 13, 2014 11:07:35 GMT -5
I'm a loan officer and was doing a loan for an older "gentleman" today. He asks me how I am with dumb jokes. Thinking he meant silly jokes like knock knock jokes, I said I love them. He asked this:
"What do you say to a woman with 2 black eyes?"
.... I dunno.
"You shouldn't have to say anything, she's already been spoken to twice."
What. The. Fuck.
No. That's not a "dumb" joke. That's a horribly offensive one, and to tell that to a woman? Again, what. the fuck.
Of course, I can't say anything really - I just basically said that's a bad joke, but he laughed it off. He went on to tell a racist one about a zebra. I got his loan done as quickly as possible and got him out of my office.
Post by firelight1210 on Oct 30, 2014 10:06:20 GMT -5
I feel like some of her posts have been manic and unhinged. She doesn't sound like she's doing so well at the moment, and any attention is attention, so she's begging for it.
Post by firelight1210 on Oct 22, 2014 17:06:35 GMT -5
Has anyone checked out the site and community before? I have to say that it has been what has worked the most for me, as far as motivation and keeping at it. I'm interested to hear what other people think of it.
A junior associate flipped out on me like that. He was mad I made him work all weekend and then didn't use his research in the brief do he called me at home and started screaming about what a bitch I was. He got fired - because he used the term bitch, it was construed as creating a hostile work environment based on sex- and subsequently saw our former boss at the gym, where he also flipped out on him and accused me of ruining his life and my boss of allowing me to do it. Later, after I moved to LA, I learned my new firm was in the same office space as his firm. The first time he saw me there we had a normal, if uncomfortable, conversation for about 2 minutes then he asked me if I was still a fucking bitch. I walked away and reported it, and he got flagged with building security. The next time he saw me he started screaming and calling me a bitch again. I reported that, and he got fired again, thus marking the SECOND time I ruined his life. He is now a sole practicer without an office and I heard he had to move home and live with his parents.
THAT is how a responsible employer handles a situation like this. I didn't even work for the second firm that fired him, just worked in the same building. And he was on leave the same day and fired a week later.
Post by firelight1210 on Oct 22, 2014 10:27:50 GMT -5
Loooove Harry Connick Jr - so good! And no shame in Glee, ha.
For some reason, the one thing (it's not even an actual song) that gets me in the mood is the music from Home Alone. I have the soundtrack and can listen to it straight through.