I’m so Glad you have a plan you feel comfortable with.
My brother recently had a major medical trauma and was being transferred to shock trauma. I was the only one with him And my mom questioned why he was sent to shock trauma and not jhu. The doctors at the small midtown bmore hospital where he was being transferred from told me jhu is the place to be for pediatric cancer but not necessarily other things. Then a friend, MD, told me she feels that JHU focuses too much in their research too much and patient care suffers. Sounds like this rings true in your situation which I’m sorry for. Total shit
anonymous , no, not CAR-T, that’s more in the non-hodgkins world. It’s Nivolumab and Ipilimumab. Which are mostly melanoma drugs. The Ipilimumab is the scary one. Also, it’s a huge multi-site trial. 360 US sites. And to give you an idea of the odds we are dealing with, targeting 189 subjects.
The immunotherapy regimens are having real success but I would still get third opinion myself. Again, so sorry you are facing this
I would also get a third opinion and also really get Hopkins doctor to nail down why he thinks the trial is best and to discuss all of your other options. . I would also ask if it’s a trial run by Hopkins or if they are just one site in a larger network.
I’m so sorry to hear this is back and you have been dealt this hand.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also very sorry for all you went through. My daughter experienced a major trauma and around the anniversary I go off the deep edge. Huge ups and downs and feel out of control. A therapist recommended emergency for me. I know I need to do it but I haven’t. But might be good to look into so you’re not triggered by all this bs in the news. I found that the blasey-ford story really did a number on me.
May I ask if you used to post on the bump back then. I ask because there was a woman with a very similar story when I was pregnant and if you are that person , I wanted to tell you that I have thought of you a lot over the years.
I did post on the bump back then. As much crap as that website gets, there really were some supportive people.
Yes I found the bump very supportive for some things, too. Sending you all of my good thoughts and comfort. Btw, in my original response I meant to say my theorists recommended trauma focused therapy for me—EMDR.
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I’m also very sorry for all you went through. My daughter experienced a major trauma and around the anniversary I go off the deep edge. Huge ups and downs and feel out of control. A therapist recommended emergency for me. I know I need to do it but I haven’t. But might be good to look into so you’re not triggered by all this bs in the news. I found that the blasey-ford story really did a number on me.
May I ask if you used to post on the bump back then. I ask because there was a woman with a very similar story when I was pregnant and if you are that person , I wanted to tell you that I have thought of you a lot over the years.
Do you have non seafood restaurant recs? We go in two weeks but my DS has a severe fish allergy. We rented a vrbo on Taylor bay. Thanks
Love, love, love Taylor Bay! Bring blow-up rafts and noodles as it is amazing to lay in the water all day. So jealous!
Can you go to restaurants that offer fish? It is going to be hard to find a place that doesn't sell fish. There is a great Italian restaurant at the Marina which is on a cliff. I need to find the name. Most restaurants sell pasta and steak and pretty much everything in between.
Also, shop at the local grocery store. It is cheaper but prepare yourself to be shocked by the prices. They also don't sell alcohol on Sundays though I know a place behind a shoe store who will sell bootlegged Budweiser, lol
Cocoa Bistro is one of the best restaurants and I would recommend calling today for a reservation. It is really hard to get into.
Have fun! Provo has my heart.
Thank you so much!!
He can eat at places that offer fish but his food can’t come in contact with fish-it’s nervewracking’
Grace Bay is where most of the stuff is and where you want to be. However, I have rented a house on Taylor Bay which was fucking amazing. It is hard to find and not as beautiful as Grace Bay but the water is basically a giant Wade pool.
I would not stay at an all inclusive. There are some of the best restaurants in the world and the island is so small that it is easy to navigate. Most of the hotels are condos with full kitchens so you can have lunch or breakfast and there are 2 groceries close to Grace Bay.
I have stayed at the Sands twice and Ocean Club West 3 times and have no complaints. The Sands has one of my favorite restaurants.
I would recommend renting a car from Grace Bay rentals. It is super cheap and allows you to go all over the island.
I would also recommend a snorkel trip with Mr. Pringles. He picks you up on a boat at your hotel. You snorkel for Conch which they make for lunch and take you to the most beautiful island I have ever seen.
Turks is my special place. I am getting bummed that the secret is out, lol . It was beat up pretty badly by the hurricane but it is coming back.
Be aware that it is REALLY expensive. Everything is imported. So it is about 65 bucks for a case of beer and lunch will average around 100-150. With that said, we still spent far less going the non inclusive route and I highly recommend enjoying the island and restaurants rather that an all-inclusive.
Do you have non seafood restaurant recs? We go in two weeks but my DS has a severe fish allergy. We rented a vrbo on Taylor bay. Thanks
I typically do not like Dorit but when she’s one on one with any of the ladies she seems like a fun, nice friend.
Teddi’s H hanging out in the other room while her son was having a fit and she has guests was fucking ridiculous.
Camille is obnoxious. She acts like she’s such a good person for not holding a grudge when Lisa was just having a grown up debate with her. It’s not like Rinna said anything hurtful or offensive.
Ken’s an ass as usual.
I’m only half way through the episode so I may be back with more comments.
Camille is on my shit list. I will never look at her the same for this BK bs.
As a matter of fact, I wish I knew how every single HW from every franchise voted. If I knew this, I would be TeamWhoever didn't vote for Dumpster Fire.
Google this. There are speculations that are probably right on
When I was able to talk through the memory and not break down. And for me my breakthrough was when I changed the outcome of the experience of my trauma. Without being specific, I took back my 'power' by imagining myself screaming at the abuser and saying exactly how I felt about the situation.
From there I felt empowered about how to deal with the experience moving forward when I feel triggered. And I also set boundaries with people in my life based on these realizations.
Not sure if that makes sense.
this makes a lot of sense and seems in line with what my therapist described. I am very happy for you. I also really appreciate your sharing
I want to say mine took about 8 sessions, but I was already familiar with my therapist so that helped. My last session I felt like I finally made the breakthrough and called my husband sobbing with happiness like I could feel the release.
I'm happy answer any other questions too, it's still kind of like magic to me that is actually worked!
I would be interested to know what a breakthrough felt like for you. the therapist I was seeing described it as sort of rewiring the memories so I am not sure if there would be a breakthrough. RElated Q, how do you know when you're done with a trauma?
i did this once and i was so drained afterwards and then got really sick and haven't gone back. I know i need to but it's hard to be ready to see it through. I will say, when i come downstairs in the morning after kids have eaten and the kitchen is mess, or when i go into the playroom and shit is everywhere i sometimes lose my shit. like it gives me such anxiety. in the first session we were in the memory of a vacation from when i was about 7 and assaulted and i kept focusing on some dinner party we went to and i said i was stuck on the memory of being in a living room and papers everywhere and just kind of messy and my shoulders got all tight. It made me wonder if that is the connectoin. for that reason alone i should probably go back.
It sounds like going back could be beneficial but I understand feeling like it would be hard to see through. I'm really anxious about the thought of working thru the particular issue, but I also feel that things have gotten worse for me over the past year-ish, and I don't want to keep getting worse.
it is worse for me too now, especially around an anniversary so i know i need to do it. i'm just scared but i know that in july i'll be kicking myself for not seeing through
i did this once and i was so drained afterwards and then got really sick and haven't gone back. I know i need to but it's hard to be ready to see it through. I will say, when i come downstairs in the morning after kids have eaten and the kitchen is mess, or when i go into the playroom and shit is everywhere i sometimes lose my shit. like it gives me such anxiety. in the first session we were in the memory of a vacation from when i was about 7 and assaulted and i kept focusing on some dinner party we went to and i said i was stuck on the memory of being in a living room and papers everywhere and just kind of messy and my shoulders got all tight. It made me wonder if that is the connectoin. for that reason alone i should probably go back.
I read that it’s tied to when they came in. DD had her first tooth at 51/3 months and lost her first when she was 4 I think. Or maybe she had just turns 5. DS got his first tooth at 13 months and he’s 6 with no loose teeth in sight
I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m sure your feeling will be all over the place for quite some time. I think that is to be expected, so be kind to yourself.
Instead of going tonight can you email or text the co leader and say I know I’ve let you down this year, I own it and I’m sorry. I am more than willing to sit down to discuss further but I cannot do that tonight.
When you say residency, does that mean an md/PhD? I have my PhD...I would ask what the terms of the stipend are and if they are flat out from your advisor for the entrieery of the program or if it would involve serving as a TA too. And if so, for how long would you have to be a TA.