I just don't think that starting a new board needs to involve pissing over other people who are just starting out
AND THAT'S EXACTLY WHY WE NEED THE NEW BOARD Thos of us who have been trying for a crazylong time, or have health issues sometimes really just need to vent about people with their TTC for 2 days tickers. And we don't want to be meanies because we're all so barfingly friendly here.
Just as well as you have the right to your effing ticker, we have the right to want to scream at it. Free country/world/internet you know.
As far as newbie bashing, I don't think that's really happening here, but posting once, and then posting a BFP as your second post, is annoying.
Perhaps if we included a little bit of etiquette, that might help that. It's a public message board though, and there are always going to be idiots, lol.
I'm open to revisiting the sticky, but I'm trying to imagine how we could do that usefully. I mean, how do you tell someone that yes, it's ok to come here to discuss charting and learn, but if you get a BFP your first time out, don't tell us..? We can be sad, but you can't be lucky/happy? IDK. I think it's a fine line between avoiding the irksome posts and being borderline militant.
Fasthand - Totally okay if newbies get lucky. wish I had been. What's sucky though are the people who come in, don't even introduce, post 10 zillion pee-sticks in their first post while simultaneously asking what AF means and 10 minutes later posting their AWish OMG I've got a BFP. That's not lucky, that's insanely annoying!
I think we can find a way to work (perhaps friendlier than I do) that GP etiquette says don't effing just come in here to show your pee sticks if we don't know you and boast your BFP after half a day of trying. Do that in Got pregnant or something.
It really depends on the actual plane they use. On our last trip on the way to the US we had a great plane, crew, food was awesome, super comfy flight really, as far as economy ever is comfy. The way back was hellish. no PTVs, food was sucky, crew was unfriendly and screaming children around us that did not stop screaming for the full 10 hours (and parents that didn't even try to comfort/occupy them). Based on the flight to the US, I highly recommend Delta, based on the flight back home I'd say I prefer different airlines. There's really just no way to tell unless you've done the exact same flight a bunch of times with different airlines.
My favorite airline used to be TWA, but they were bought by northwest, which merged with Delta and flying from Amsterdam you never know whether it's a Delta or KLM operated flight. Oh well...
Between 9 and 10 usually. I would prefer between 8 and 9 and sit longer, but that's just sucky for DH as he'll need to rush way too much to get home.
My Dutch family all eats at 6pm. Always. A late dinner is 7 at the latest.
My American family differs, mostly depending - per family - on job and kids situation, but on holidays it's always 3.30 or 4pm at the latest, which just confuses DH ("but that's really just a slightly late lunch, why do they insist on calling it dinner?") and leaves me to snack on chips and cookies all day because first I miss lunch so I'm hungry and snacking, and then dinner is so early that by the time 8pm comes around I really need something to eat.
From the responses I see here, it seems like a sub board is worth the try.
And maybe an update of the sticky is in order too. Add the acronyms, for instance, and maybe add some etiquette.
Like the multitude of people I feel we've had who come in to basically ask what BFP means and the next day post OMG, I have a BFP. And then never shop up anymore. Explain that no, we cannot tell you if you actually did ovulate if you don't temp/chart and that a +opk does not mean you will now be pregnant if you POAS in 9 days. Stuff like that. And maybe when people ask bullshit questions like that, we just refer them to the sticky and not really go into it that much. That might help too. Dunno.
I really like hanging out here with you ladies, really, I adore all the regulars, especially when snarky it's really the newbies with their ridiculous questions followed by immediate BFPs and/or mega sob stories when they don't have a BFP at 9DPO the first cycle trying that make me want to scream like Lola does at the TTC for 1.3 days tickers.
Oh, yeah, that's a pain. I thought the question referred to how/where Dutch people get their own letter, so I tried to say Dutch people don't need one.
As I said in my no-Christmas-miracle post (thanks for all your support BTW), I've kinda been avoiding this board lately because still no BFP just sucks too hard. On the mod board it was mentioned that some other boards need to be reorganized and unused boards can be deleted and that brought me to think of the fact that there's no (active) "trouble TTC" board anywhere on here.
Would there be any others that might post there if we'd make that a sub-board of here (or add it separately). I really truly do love you all and are happy for each and every person that does get a BFP, but in all honesty the BFPs from people who just joined 2 seconds ago are getting to me too much.
I don't know if there are more ladies on here that have the same issue. Having a "Trouble TTC" board might be nice for those that do.
If more people like the idea and think they would post there regularly, let me know (and also, as a sub or separate board) so we can see if we can get that set up.
Hope everyone had great holidays and a happy new year.
What neeps says, converters are awesome, just make sure it can handle the wattage you're trying to pull. I bought a brand new sewing machine in the US to take home with me. With the added expense of the converter, it was still tons cheaper than if I'd have to buy an equal one (even second hand) in NL. I debated kitchen equipment, but since I already had the most expensive things I needed on Dutch voltage, I sucked it up for the cheaper stuff as I didn't want to deal with dragging it to NL and having to haul my converters all over the house (I also have 1 high and 1 low wattage converter). Low is used for some chargers and things that aren't dual voltage, high is for sewing machine and has an extension cord attached so I can put whatever I want in there and lives in my craft room.
And re the question about the Dutch. No one writes a letter, we actually have our citizens and residents <gasp> registered. And marriages and divorces are registered in the same system. So they can just check the computer and see what's up. (And if you need the info for another country, you go to city hall and they just do a print out on official city paper and no notaries are needed.) It's kind of a nifty system Napoleon introduced, works quite well.
Outside of France you'll be fine renting with your US license. They ask you to have a valid license. According to the country that issued your license (the US), your license is valid, right? The only country that doesn't recognize the validity is France.
Unless you're planning to stay in France past the point where you need to renew your US license, I'd see no reason to get a French one. And even if you would stay past that time, I'd probably not do it. You're only staying 'til the summer, right?
Morning! I'm back to work. Wednesday is my work-from-home-day though, so I am still in my jammies to keep myself in the good vacation/holiday mood for as long as I can muster up. Tomorrow is my first day back to the office. Not looking forward to that. When will I win that damn lottery so I can just live in my jammies???
QOTD: Turkey soup with stuffing dumplings is a great one, I once came up with an awesome Turkey salad with lots of fresh celery, and a bit of gravy and leftover stuffing mixed in with mayo and such for the salad dressing/base. Otherwise Turkey or ham sandwiches are awesome, and I've been known to use leftover turkey in an artichoke spinach dip to make it extra tasty.
In other words, no not really a favorite recipe
And re turkey for Christmas, my US family does turkey and ham for Christmas. Usually one for Christmas eve and the other for Christmas dinner. (In other words, leftover lunch after Christmas is my favorite, I get to eat everything!) In NL Christmas dinner is subject to fashion, and every few years everybody does turkey for Christmas.
CC companies are really quick blocking cards nowadays when they get used internationally and there is anything unusual going on. I know my Dutch card got blocked after buying a pre paid cell phone at a Manhattan Radio shack, because apparently small charges (and especially things like phones and such that are easy to re-sell) at stores like Radio shack are just the thing people like to do with skimmed credit cards.
From what I know with using both US and NL cards internationally is that if you just always use the address that the card is registered at as the billing address, all will be fine. (In other words, just alter shipping addresses, not billing addresses).
A longer trip back home maybe? How much time can he take off in one stretch? How much travel budget do you have (can you fly out to somewhere every month, or should you really limit yourself to 1 or 2 trips that involve airfare). I know my H still has a safari in Africa on his bucket list. With 38 days of vacation, you could easily fit in a nice longer trip there.
I/we used to always go to parties, but since we've moved to our new home, we really haven't done anything and stayed home alone <insert sad face>. The first year was because DH's grandma had been hospitalized the night before and we needed to be ready to hop on a plane/in the car/go go go within minutes. (she made it until we saw her in February!) so we were sad and stayed home and discovered we had an amazing view of the city's fireworks from our rooftop deck. Next year DH's dad had just gotten out of the hospital, but because of his being sick we hadn't made plans, and I was in the middle of a burn-out and just slept or cried all the time, so we stayed home again and watched the fireworks again.
Now this year we tried arranging things, but our friends who we were planning on possibly doing NYE with have crap going on, so we'll likely stay home again, thus making it a tradition to stay home alone and watch fireworks from the roof. I'm totally fine with that too, actually!
I'm new to slow cooking too (got my slow cooker this year) and I love it. The fact that I can safely leave it on while I'm away and my food still gets cooked is one of the main reasons I love it. When I worried about leaving the house, the response I got was 'you don't turn off the fridge when you leave either, do you?', apparently the way slow cookers work and the chance of fire are literally the same as the chance you have of a fire because you didn't unplug your refrigerator when you left the house. That calmed my nerves sufficiently :-)
Can't help you with the low carb recipes though, I'm an absolute carbivore!
My dad came over to NL for some meetings and my brother and I usually have dinner with him when he comes over if he has time. I made the reservation for 4 instead of 3 and informed them that I was bringing someone. That's when they all found out I was dating someone and it was serious. (I'd never introduced a boyfriend to my family before, with the drama my family is, I've always wanted to make very very sure of everything before introducing anyone, it never came that far before!)
I wasn't in touch with my mom much at that time, so she didn't meet him until we decided to come to my brother's b-day party at her house. That presented a whole new drama, because I apparently didn't properly introduce him to every single person in the room. My stepmom met him when he came over to the US to join me for my last 10 days of vacation there (I had a month) a few months after my dad met him.
Post by Cheesecake on Dec 23, 2012 19:22:28 GMT -5
I POAS this morning and the BFN was confirmed a few hours later by cramps and my period starting.
I had ALL possible symptoms yet again.
I'm sad. I was really hoping for a Christmas miracle. I wanted DH's Christmas present to be a onesie or bib or whatever. I wanted to finally get lucky. From starting to discuss TTC til just now, I never thought I would have to start 2013 without either a baby or being knocked up.
I think I'm going to keep a low profile here for a while. I have severe BFP envy and I just keep on getting sadder and sadder each cycle.
So I wish you happy Holidays, a great new year and will talk to you again when I either get a BFP or have decided I don't care anymore.
Sorry to be a downer. I might come back and talk once in a while, but not regularly. If you want to choose another mod instead of me, who might spend more time here, please do.
DH and I are only going to be away for 8 days and I can't fit our stuff into 1 large piece of luggage. I know it's largely due to gifts. But it's still a bit insane.