These were my recommendation, too. I can easily wear them all day at work, or out for an evening with friends, and my feet are totally fine. I've got a few colors.
I had a neighbor kid whose mom would shave her (dark) leg hair when I was like 10-11 & she was 6 or 7. I was so jealous. My mom wouldn't let me shave til I was 12 or 13. I started sneaking & doing it myself.
I see nothing wrong with doing it. But I'm also not a parent.
Same thing can be said about some with depression and other mental illness, as I've said over and over in this thread.
As to "there are a lot of things that can be tried" - yes that's true. There are more treatment options for depression and other mental illnesses. They don't always work.
The sense of hopelessness is the same.
And with other mental illnesses other than depression where there is a heck of a lot less in terms of treatment, it's easier to get there. My aunt had schizophrenia and had tried every drug on the market. None made her demons stop. Not a single one. Talk about your body completely betraying you and there's nothing that can make it better.
What I find particularly interesting about this discussion, it that it is (presumably) healthy people having this debate. Do people really think that people suffering from depression see it this way? Do they really think that they see a difference between the hopelessness of Parkinsons and the hopelessness they're feeling? Do they really think that they have the ability to think, "Well at least there might be a cure for my hell, things were good once, they can be again?" This...this is not how it works.
Thank you for saying this. After so long with a spouse who has major depression, I accept that sometimes living is a lot worse than dying. While death hurts loved ones, I understand a person with mental illness wanting relief. We are so fixated on prolonging life; death isn't the worst thing.
It is not fun here. I spent time last week calling around after my H was saying he wanted to die. Because he wasn't in crisis anymore, the hospital's mental health unit said not to bring him, and referred me to a clinic that doesn't accept insurance. 75% of the social workers/counselors on my list are either specialized in PTSD, grief counseling, or tout being Christian based counselors. His medical psych who manages meds takes 2-3 months to get in.
Ouch. I would be a little annoyed. I'd rather pitch in an extra $20 & buy what I wanted new. It's totally a live & learn thing. Y'all both know for next time.
It's so heavily influenced by genetics. Mine stays in the 125-130 range. I'm obese and pretty sedentary. My dad ate butter & bologna sandwiches, and his was never above 150
I don't think of you as heavy. I picture you as Ke$ha.
Bar selfie from this weekend woot! Still morbidly obese :-(
I am from Texas and live in Arkansas. My list of liberal friends/family members/acquaintances is much shorter. If I refused to speak to Republicans there would probably be days I didn't talk at all.
It's so heavily influenced by genetics. Mine stays in the 125-130 range. I'm obese and pretty sedentary. My dad ate butter & bologna sandwiches, and his was never above 150
I'm not quite SO (yet), but the past year has been huge for me with finding happiness & filling my life with things I enjoy. I feel so rich now with a large circle of close friends & interests. It's much more balanced, too, having my happiness spread around. If one aspect is less than happy for some reason, I still have 20 other things that make me happy. So it has more like a 5% negative effect vs an enormous impact when so much of my happiness was tied to my H.
It's so hard for friends when someone is going through this. None of these incidents exist in a bubble, so I try very hard not to be incredulous when a friend is staying in a bad situation. I've learned first hand just how hard it can be to leave, even when everything is far beyond toxic. It also starts straining friendships because it's exhausting when a friend needs a lot of emotional support while the solution to the problems seems so obvious.
I know my circumstances are different, but the things I've found most helpful during the past year or so were my friends reminding me that it isn't my job to fix or save him. That it's impossible, actually. People have to do that for themselves. I also appreciated being reminded that I am still young and vibrant and have a beautiful life ahead of me. That it's okay for me to be "selfish" and want more than this.
Really, though, time is the only thing that will get her there. The coke machine analogy was spot on.