My kid was transverse pretty much the entire pregnancy and nothing (including an ECV) could turn her so I had a scheduled c section. It’s a good sign if baby has sometimes been in the right position. Check out the exercises from the spinningbabies site. Early third tri is a good time to be thinking about this because baby can turn more easily while they are smaller.
I'm having an appointment tomorrow to check the growth of my fibroid. It's starting to cause major issues, bladder/period/lifestyle. I'm freaked because two doctors have told me if I do opt to have it removed, they will just take my uterus. At last check a year and a half ago it was 11.5cm, right in front, behind my bladder. Things are just getting worse. I'm done having kids, but I'm so emotional about this. I know my quality of life would improve dramatically, but fuck, I hate having to make that decision.
Sorry, I know this isn't what was asked, I've just never had others to chat with about this stuff. No one I know has fibroids, let alone large or bothersome enough to need removal.
There are a few awesome private support groups on Facebook if you are into that.
I have also heard really great things about the forums on hystersisters.com
I work for a company that helps a lot of big companies give better customer experiences. I had a meeting with SiriusXM once, and they could not have made it clearer in that meeting that they give ZERO shits about customer experience. They basically see themselves as a marketing company. X number of people never cancel their subscription - we just have to get the funnel big enough and then it's a cash cow.
Only company I've met in a decade doing this that didn't at least pretend to give a shit about their customers.
I walked out of that meeting, cancelled, and never looked back
Do you know who the XM target audience is? Because before we even saw the Brietbart program pop up on the dial my husband and I were both thinking that XM is for white male baby boomers just based on the sheer number of 60s/70s rock stations we found.
I work for a company that helps a lot of big companies give better customer experiences. I had a meeting with SiriusXM once, and they could not have made it clearer in that meeting that they give ZERO shits about customer experience. They basically see themselves as a marketing company. X number of people never cancel their subscription - we just have to get the funnel big enough and then it's a cash cow.
Only company I've met in a decade doing this that didn't at least pretend to give a shit about their customers.
I walked out of that meeting, cancelled, and never looked back
y4m I'll check out that site. I have an internal in the uterus and an external right on the wall (I think?). They can't check my lining because of the location of the fibroid so they can't rule anything else out. They're going to do a hysteroscopic myomectomy I think, he said it's with the camera and they cut out the fibroid. The GYN feels it's too painful after they dialate and cut to have you awake, but he'll refer me to one who will keep me awake if I don't want to go under.
I think this is also causing bladder issues. I've never had a kid but I get the pee when you laugh, sneeze etc. that women who've had kids say they have. I drink a lot of water but always feel a rush to pee. I just thought I have a weak bladder but I wonder if this is related?
I match almost every fibroid symptom on other websites. There's a slight concern it could be really early menopause since I think my mom started as early as 42 (I'm mid 30's), can they test for that? Both GYN's seem to think the external fibroid is causing the heavy heavy bleeding, cramping, pelvic pain etc. issues based on what I've told them. I don't want to have surgery but I can't keep bleeding like this.
So a hysteroscopic myomectomy has a very easy recovery based on my experience - I could have worked the next day if I had to.
But that can only take care of internal fibroids, not anything outside the uterus.
litskispeciality, did your ultrasound show any fibroids inside the uterus, or only outside (subserosal). Usually external ones cause issues more like fullness, bulk, or need to pee (because the fibroid is pressing on something else) versus bleeding.
I had mine surgically removed early last year. Because they were all internal to the uterus (submucosal), I could have a hysteroscopic myomectomy, which is still general surgery (the way my doctor does it anyway), but is outpatient and has no incision (they go in vaginally). The ultrasounds showed four 2-3cm fibroids, but once they got in there were over a dozen small ones as well. That recovery was pretty easy - I could have worked the next day if I had to.
One option to consider is UFE, which is an outpatient technique where they basically cut off the fibroid's blood supply to shrink it. It is generally not recommended for people who want to preserve fertility (but more because it hasn't been studied a ton, I think).
In general, I'd recommend getting a second opinion either from a reproductive endocrinologist (if you want to maintain fertility) and/or a minimally invasive gyn surgeon.
If you get an intrusive ad like this - it may still be possible to scroll to the bottom and use the "Report Ad" button to report it - I believe that captures the details about the ad and your settings and sends them to proboards to correct. I can't report myself without replicating it, but at least that link doesn't require you to set up a second account on the proboards support board.
Open an anonymous browser and search your name (maybe name and location if it’s common). That’s the view employers will have. Ideally it seems authentic but boring. I️ probably wouldn’t change anything based on your description. Family pictures could potentially let them know if you have kids...but for me I️ don’t want to work anywhere that’s going to hold that against me.
The grocery list thing is just “Alexa add pears to my grocery list”. I️ don’t know if you consider that opening a skill. I️ wouldn’t want to dictate a whole list that way, but when I️ use the last egg and my hands are covered in possible salmonella it’s perfect to add that one thing before I️ forget it.
Smolinsk , so banning high capacity ammunition would not be effective? I was not aware that those could be reloaded.
Bans on high capacity magazines mean you have to stop to reload more often, which could slow down a mass shooter, so in theory those could be effective. Even pro gun folks are usually ok with some level of limit on magazine capacity - though you can debate what number is reasonable (especially for self-defense use cases).
They just don't "make all the bullets eventually get used up " as that miseducated legislator appears to believe.
TR , audette , Well, that's just fucking stupid. Why are they introducing bills like that? Dems need a (non-NRA) gun expert to consult on their ideas for gun control, clearly.
My husband and I talk about this in regards to some comments Rep. Diana DeGette made around the time the Colorado legislature passed their gun control laws. Here is an excerpt from the Denver Post:
"Asked why banning ammunition magazines that hold more than 15 rounds would be effective in reducing gun violence, DeGette responded:
“These are ammunition, they’re bullets, so the people who have those now, they’re going to shoot them, so if you ban them in the future, the number of these high-capacity magazines is going to decrease dramatically over time because the bullets will have been shot and there won’t be any more available.”
Magazines, in almost every kind of weapon, can be reloaded.
Then, later in the day, in explaining the mistake, DeGette spokeswoman Juliet Johnson made another one.
“She simply misspoke in referring to ‘magazines’ when she should have referred to ‘clips,’ which cannot be reused because they don’t have a feeding mechanism,” Johnson said.
Clips, too, can be reloaded in almost every instance."
It blows my mind that these legislators don't have someone on staff that better understands these topics. My husband is a deputy and a hunter so we have several firearms in our house (they are all secured in a safe) and he rolls his eyes every time someone references an "assault weapons ban" because those words don't really mean anything. He is, however, completely on board with common sense gun control laws like the ones debatethis listed.
OMG stop talking if you don't know what you are talking about. This does so much harm.
I've heard the term "gunsplaining" used to refer to gun rights advocates using technical jargon to shut down conversations, and I do think that happens. But like... it takes a bare minimum education to sound way smarter than the above, and I don't blame people for not being willing to debate someone with that level of knowledge.
we also need a far more powerful gun control lobby that needs to start I guess giving money to Republicans... and say hey we'll give you more than the NRA. I don't know.
I actually suggested this in a conversation with DH the other day. What would happen if Moms Against Guns, Brady Campaign, Everytown, etc. came together and pledge to provide more financial support than the NRA for a given candidate? I don't even know that that's possible, but I wonder if it would change the conversation considering that the majority of Americans support some form of gun control.
This piece makes the case that it wouldn't change much (and in the case of Everytown, that it has been tried)
The majority of Americans probably do support some form of gun control, but they also support private gun ownership broadly. The NRA's power is less about buying votes with campaign donations (they actually spend very little on that relative to other lobbying orgs, and even if they didn't, there's not much evidence that it works that way) - the power is in its ability to activate its large and vocal member base.
"Assault Weapons" are not a clear category. That's why you see bills that have to list them all out and why you see descriptions like "military-style."
To use California as an example, here's what it takes to define an "assault weapon" in that code. See how many of these things are not functions of the gun that enable it to be more deadly, but rather elements of how the gun looks? (e.g. "a conspicuously protruding pistol grip" or "Telescoping stocks")
In addition to a list of specific firearms that are banned by name, the following firearms are banned by characteristic (from Penal Code §30515(a), formerly §12276.1):
(1) A semiautomatic, centerfire rifle that has the capacity to accept a detachable magazine and any one of the following: (A) A pistol grip that protrudes conspicuously beneath the action of the weapon. (B) A thumbhole stock. (C) A folding or telescoping stock. (D) A grenade launcher or flare launcher. (E) A flash suppressor. (F) A forward pistol grip. (2) A semiautomatic, centerfire rifle that has a fixed magazine with the capacity to accept more than 10 rounds. (3) A semiautomatic, centerfire rifle that has an overall length of less than 30 inches [762 mm]. (4) A semiautomatic pistol that has the capacity to accept a detachable magazine and any one of the following: (A) A threaded barrel, capable of accepting a flash suppressor, forward handgrip. (B) A second handgrip. (C) A shroud that is attached to, or partially or completely encircles, the barrel that allows the bearer to fire the weapon without burning his or her hand, except a slide that encloses the barrel. (D) The capacity to accept a detachable magazine at some location outside of the pistol grip. (5) A semiautomatic pistol with a fixed magazine that has the capacity to accept more than 10 rounds. (6) A semiautomatic shotgun that has both of the following: (A) A folding or telescoping stock. (B) A pistol grip that protrudes conspicuously beneath the action of the weapon, thumbhole stock, or vertical handgrip. (7) A semiautomatic shotgun that has the ability to accept a detachable magazine. (8) Any shotgun with a revolving cylinder.
y4m , how much do you think you spent on it included the accessories for the Xmas lights and thermostat?
Also, how do you keep kids from ordering stuff on amazon through it? I asked about that at the amazon store and the salesperson couldn't answer.
Well the Echo and the Dot are $100 and $50ish. Compatible smart plugs and lightbulbs are like $30 each to enable individual devices. The nest thermostat is an investment in itself.
Interesting (and terrifying) thought about kids ordering stuff. My kid is not yet capable of that.
Oh - it can actually order stuff for you too. But it has to be super specific stuff and I don't really trust it (though it has never gone wrong for me either). IF you buy something a lot on amazon, that can be useful (again, for hands full in the kitchen moments mostly)
I have an Alexa and a Dot (which is a tiny Alexa extension I put outside my shower).
I use it: -As a bluetooth speaker from my phone, or to listen to pandora or podcasts -To turn our christmas lights on and off (with a Kasa Smart plug) -To add things to a grocery list (integration with Anylist) when I am in the shower or kitchen -To add things to a to-do list (when I am in the shower or kitchen) -For measurement conversions while cooking
It can also change the temperature on our Nest thermostat, but that's usually easier from my phone.
By far, the most useful thing is to speak the grocery list and to do list items when my hands are otherwise full.
I'm sure there are other useful things to do with it - the ones above took some effort to configure and get working correctly. But I really rely on the grocery and task list thing.
I can see how this is a logical change for already high-performing schools who are failing a segment of their population. That should be brought to light.
I wonder how it impacts schools that were low on the GS scale before because of low test scores in a high poverty / high ESL population. It seems like a double penalty for them, potentially, if they get both low test scores and also show large achievement gaps. Hopefully that's not how it works.
For my local school it went from a 3 to a 4. So still not good, but it did go up. What brought the score up was it has a high score for academic progress. From the website:
A promising sign:
Students at this school are making more academic progress from one grade to the next compared to students at other schools in the state.
Above average progress with low test scores means students are starting at a low point but are making larger gains than their peers at other schools in the state.
The average scores are still lower than state average and that is keeping their score down. Also, low income students are not doing well, but that is mostly the entire school since most people I know send their kids to private, myself included. But at least with this new metric, it seems like the score could and should rise over time.
My local elementary went up too (from a 1 to a 2).
That school (which is like 75% low income, 10% white) - got some points for improvement also, as it should. But 50% of the grade is still test scores, and now 30% of the grade is the gap between the large population of low income students and the small population of high income students.
I wonder what would happen to the grade if the high income students weren't there, or their achievement dropped. That's not a good goal, but depending on the math, it could potentially lead to a better score.
I am by no means an expert at this...but one thing I didn't see mentioned: how long do you wait before you go to him when he wakes up? If you haven't tried giving him 5-10 minutes to fuss first, I would try that. That might get you out of that 2am barely awake; easy to settle one at least.
Also if you aren't already, I would definitely recommend splitting the night here. One spouse takes everything up until ~2 (other goes to bed EARLY and takes the early hours)
I can see how this is a logical change for already high-performing schools who are failing a segment of their population. That should be brought to light.
I wonder how it impacts schools that were low on the GS scale before because of low test scores in a high poverty / high ESL population. It seems like a double penalty for them, potentially, if they get both low test scores and also show large achievement gaps. Hopefully that's not how it works.
We waited until 6m and started with purée. DD is definitely not a fan in general. She likes mum mums that she can feed herself, and she likes puffs but her pincer grasp isn’t very good yet. The only way to get her to open her mouth for a purée is to trick her by showing her a puff. She still has a tongue thrust so purées just get pushed right back.
I’m thinking she would do better with BLW but I have no idea what I’m doing.
We had good luck with finger shapes and also noodle shapes. So if you have a spiralizer (or an awesome grocery store that sells zoodles)—you can steam some of those and let her go to town. We did that and big batches of very steamed or roasted veggies cut in finger shapes. Chunks of slippery stuff like banana or avocado you can roll in a bit of baby cereal to give them traction.
My only BLW advice would be to watch a few videos about choking vs gagging so you feel confident. A bit of gagging/coughing is totally normal as they learn.
We started at 4 months - she was ready and with my history of allergies it was important to use to expose her to more potential allergens sooner, because that seems to be what the latest research is indicating can help prevent allergies in high risk kids.