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I want to eat lunch but it's only a little past 11 and I'm here until 5:30. If I eat now I will be starving at dinner time.

The external speaker in my iPhone keeps not working randomly. Get it together phone.

Big, huge hugs to you abcdefu.

jojoandleo, if you haven't had the chicken pox shot, get it. Chicken pox is severe when adults get it.

You've been on fire since you got back from Italy, pantsoffdanceoff! I like it!

I slept terribly. Today is going to be loooong.

Today I returned a ton of stuff that I ordered online that didn't fit. I need clothes for my trip and it's so freaking hard for me to find clothes that fit my body. I spent a few hours trying on stuff and I came out with 1 plain navy tank top. A first world problem indeed, but man it's so defeating to not fit into anything because of my chest (38F).

I came home feeling kind of sulky. I was making dinner when I received a text from my mother. (Quick background: My mother and I do not have a good relationship. I tolerate her at best. She was not a good mother growing up, at all.) Her text said that her therapist asked her how certain incidents changed her and how her children would say that she's changed. She asked us to email her therapist how the said incidents changed our mother. This is such a trigger for me because my mother a) is a compulsive liar b) thrives on her own victimization to the point that she's isn't willing to admit that she hurt her children. The real answer to how these incidents changed my mother is that she turned into an alcoholic who both emotionally and physically abused me while neglecting her 3 other children, and after a few years she shifted into a perpetual victim who only comes out of her bedroom to seek drugs for her made-up pain. She might be around but she's been absent for over 14 years. But if I said that she would say I was lying and then cry about how everyone is so mean to her. And we do this fucking song and dance with every new therapist. I called her therapist once a few years ago and begged her to get my mother help after my sisters found my mother drugged out of her mind crawling around the house...she was taken to the ER for an overdose. But according to my mother, my sisters were just being dramatic, yet they are traumatized by what they saw, but naturally, "they just want to see the worst of" my mother all the time. This text just set me off emotionally. So much so I totally forgot about an event I really wanted to go to tonight and totally spaced because I was rattled by this fucking text and my mother. Damn it.

PDQ. I'm also feeling lonely as of late and this is one of those moments that it would be really nice to have a shoulder to cry on, so I think that feeling is also exacerbating my reaction tonight.

Glad you all talked and that you are feeling better. It sounds like you have a good grasp on the situation for the various scenarios that could play out. Yay for new job!

Ten years ago today I got married. So strange that a day that meant so much to me initially is now just another day on the calendar.

My cat has woken me up at 5:30am the past two mornings, once by loudly taking a bath and the next day by knocking all my stuff off my night stand. I love you cat, but please sleep one hour longer each day.

Congrats!!!

How far would you all have to move for the current job? (In hours per day from where you are now).

I think if he is the type of person that will need a "cool down" period or would lose his temper, I think it would be okay to give him the letter and then revisit it when you feel like he wouldn't be volatile.

I do want to point out your line:


Do you want to separate if he won't do counseling? Because in that line you are saying he if he isn't willing to go to therapy, then there is an option to consider separating and you go back to "we" in that offer. I don't know what situation brought you here, but I know from my own experience that there is a point in which you need to put yourself first and often times I was much too considerate toward the "we" that he wasn't concerned about at all when I should have been focusing on myself. If he isn't willing to go to counseling, are you going to leave the marriage?

OPI Can't Find My Czechbook. I'm in love with this color. It makes me happy when I look at my nails.

To be honest, I normally ask to meet people after a few messages as well. If you're not ready to meet that soon, it's okay to say you'd like to chat more before meeting up. POF was not a useful site in my area and I'm not willing to pay for Match, but Tinder and Bumble (app only) have lots of people on them. Granted, no matter what site you're on your probably going to meet some odd ducks. Sometimes on Tinder I see teenagers who say they are in their 20s but post pictures of themselves at prom and in their football gear, lol. The good thing about Tinder and Bumble is that they can only message you if you have also swiped yes to them, versus Match, POF, and OKC where anyone can message you.

bcarp30, two of my favorite JM pairings are Peony & Blush Suede/Nectarine Blossom & Honey and Pomegranate Noir/Nectarine Blossom & Honey. Orange Blossom would work well as a sub for any of those. Also, the Orange Blossom body creme is absolutely incredible.

Queen Mamadala, I worked in fragrances for about 3 years, so I have a ton of fragrances I am working my way through but most of them are designer/main stream fragrances. Of them my very favorite is Carven L'eau de Toilette. It's fresh, green, but with a gorgeous musky undertone that warms it up perfectly and can be worn day or night. It is amazing when worn as it just gets better. Another favorite that I don't own but hope to soon is Givenchy Angel ou Demon Le Secret. It's the perfect sweet with a hint of spice.

I just considered checking this book out last night! I will add it to my TBR list.

As much as I bitch about dating, I realize have choices about who stays and who goes and for that I am thankful. I'm trying really hard to have a better perspective toward dating, so your post is a good reminder.

Oh, and I totally agree with jigsy that for the people who put it out there that they want casual sex or a ons, that's fine as long as they are upfront and honest with their intentions. The guy that said he acts like the boyfriend-type to get sex is a super douche.