I'm pretty bummed that even my non-profit in DC isn't giving us XMas eve off. I mean, we get the week between Xmas and New years off, but they KNOW everyone is going to take off Xmas eve anyway, it's not like they are saving oodles.
No. They made it clear from the start that unless we went to a fairly cheap school, that wouldn't happen. They did, however, say that once my brother got into school, they would pay $9,000/year for each of us. Then the economy tanked and my grandparents got sick. I got one year of that payment and none after that. Each year they said they would help pay the next year or that they'd help in other ways and they never did.
I'm not saying they should have paid for any of it, but I sure wish they had been honest. I may not have necessarily transferred but I would have worked harder at finding a second summer job or something.
What really burns my biscuits is that they found it a higher priority to show off when I got married (and pay for most of it) than help pay for something important, like my school.
What were your financial expectations of your parents with respect to your wedding? That they would pay for most of it. I was a beebee bride and they guilt-tripped me into having a huge wedding that I didn't want. At least they paid for their friends.
Did you expect them to pay in whole? In part? With price limits? Not at all? The vast majority.
Did you expect your in-laws to pay in whole? In part? With price limits? Not at all? In part for the things that were "traditional" to pay for, per my parents request including rehearsal dinner, flowers, and honeymoon. They paid for rehearsal dinner, photographer, and forgave H's personal loan of $2,000 from college. Again, we were wee babes.
If you have or plan to have kids, what do you expect to contribute to their weddings? Also, is your expectation informed at all by whether the kid is male or female? H and I have tossed a few ideas around. Ideally, I'd like to give all of my children a lump sum of X (which we be equal for all, ideally) by the time they turn a certain age. We want to do this for both higher education/career training (if applicable), weddings, general adulthood. I don't want my kids to go to college or get married because they feel pressured or because H and I are paying for it. Not that they would, but I just don't like the idea of it. If we break it up some how, male and female children will get the same amount.
Does anyone have a rec for where to get cute Christmas cards that aren't with photos? No one wants to see a non-professional pic of me, H, or our dog. I feel like all the options either require pictures or are old lady style.
Take a deep breath. Revisit the conversation in a few days or weeks. What he said is hurtful, but perhaps he was in a bad place last night. I'm so sorry this is happening but let's not completely freak out yet. Let him know that what he said was hurtful and talk about what he meant by that.
1. MM - post and read 2. ML - read and sometimes post 3. Travel - post and read 4. CE&P - read and rarely post - it's just a bit too one-sided over there. It's more an echo chamber than a place of discussion. 5. MMM - read, I'm just nosey
I'll also say that while spanking was effective for me, it wasn't effective at all for their "naughty" child, my brother. He would, no joke, laugh. He gave zero fucks about spanking. I do remember, though, that when he was getting spanking I would cry FOR HIM hysterically because I hated the idea of it so much. I didn't want him to be hurt (even if he didn't care.) Thinking about this after my original post bothers me .
I was spanked. I don't have kids yet but I don't imagine that I'll do it. I don't have negative feelings about it with my parents (it only happened a handful of times anyway) but I'm I don't think it's the best tool for discipline.
Probably not the best decision. This is usually followed up by a Holocaust movie where I always think the main character is going to make it and, well, they don't - because it's the Holocaust. I then proceed to ugly cry for an hour.
It wouldn't fly in my field. And I think any field in which it would (creative), would expect you to come up with the layout yourself.
I've been reviewing resumes recently. The plain, SHORT ones are generally the best. (I am shocked at the number of resumes that are 5+ pages, many of which are also walls of text.)
I actually like it but I've seen a lot of bad resumes lately.
My resume pet peeve is when it goes barely onto the second (or third, fourth, etc.) page. Look, pal, make it one page. If you can't/won't make it one page make it a reasonable two pages. This whole 1.25 pages has GOT. TO. STOP. The majority of resumes I'm receiving do not need to be more than one page.
I've always thought I wanted kids but I was never baby crazy like a lot of women. I like the idea of having a family and what not. Ultimately I realized I have zero interest in birthing a mini-me. That is one of the many reasons H and I plan to adopt in a few years.
That would definitely make me nervous. Can he send you any documentation that they'll honor it? I would also just be nervous about these unknown people, no reviews or history, etc.
I really enjoyed the advice of a friend/colleague of hers, included in the book, that the years your kids are young (and daycare expenses are high) you need to view that money spent as an investment in your career and future earnings, not as some huge cost. After all, for most families, it's a few years in terms of how many years you are working.
That bit of advice really guided me in my current decision that when we start a family, H and I will view daycare expenses as an investment. H really liked this bit of advice as well and he's fully on board.
I have the one you linked and it's great so far. My old crock pot was slightly larger and it cooked too hot/fast. This one, with the programmable option, is great because it turns to warm after the time has ended.
If the food is drying out, the recipe may include wet parts only for their (smaller) crock pot, which won't help yours. Chicken breasts are also assholes in crock pots for me so I tend to stick to bone-in recipes. Then again, I haven't tried chicken breasts in this new crock pot.
It depends. I'm an extrovert and if my best friend and I lived in the same city we'd hang out at least once a week. I could see this being different for introverts.
If you want something that grows out better but isn't going all grey, go blonde. Like a normal blonde, not stripper blonde. My aunt even has dark coloring and she did this and she looks lovely. I plan to do the same.