Post by amberlyrose on Mar 28, 2018 12:39:03 GMT -5
My only hope is that influence from John and Sara push some liberal ideas on the Trump supporters watching this, like how the tax cuts are not helping them, cutting the ACA is very hurtful, etc. I do think the original did this- my family watched religiously and I know there were discussions in our home about homosexuality, birth control, boyfriends, and money that I don't think we would've had.
That said, I won't be watching. Screw Roseanne Barr.
It is interesting that the re-boot is coming at this time when the original showed in the Reagan era and Reaganomics, which pushed similar policies as the current admin.
We’ve got a homeless housing project shaping up in the burbs of Denver. Again, mostly NIMBYs, lots of people are against this and any kind of non-single family housing anywhere in the City (lots of people complaining about some recent multi family projects to council and planning commission).
In addition to the NIMBY concerns, this one also has some environmental issues that have been raised, but it’s hard to tell whether that’s just a cover for NIMBY motives.
There’s a planned low-income development in my area south of Denver that our neighbors are just up in arms about. I honestly couldn’t even tell you the reason they give for not wanting it (though increased traffic on two lane roads is one of the more reasonable ones), because the vast majority basically think having low-income people in the area will decrease home prices. Which, given the real estate market in this state is just beyond absurd. It’s all just coded racism and classism.
I live across the street from low-income housing and my block's home values are up anywhere between 100-200k in the last year. In the last 2 years, with no improvements, we've gained around 150k. It's definitely just coded racism and classism.
Post by amberlyrose on Mar 20, 2018 21:02:40 GMT -5
I have a Burberry quilted jacket similar to these, but with a zip front and more tailored waist. I've used it for light weight and heavy weight needs and it works for both. Thin enough to pair with jeans/heels for a night out but warm enough for winter nights in Denver and London.
I agree with this. Be honest with yourself - are you this girl's friend or not? If you are, then I see no problem as long as Natalie is in the loop in the manner described above.
My mama and I had a running joke that she was buying me friends because I had a very close friend in high school that my mama adopted a little. Gave her an old car. She moved in to my room when I moved out for college (she was going to a local school) so she could get out of her parents house. Lived with my mama again for a bit when she got divorced and was deciding what to do next. She's stayed close with my whole family - sees my mom more often than me since they live in the same city.
Mama was not ACTUALLY BUYING ME A FRIEND. She was my friend no matter what. But she was my friend with a less life and financial stress because my mama reached out to her.
My sister has a friend whose family was like that. Growing up they made her an Easter basket, invited her over for dinner a lot, taught her to drive. They made up for a lot of the shortfalls of growing up with a father who was meh on his kids. They would have helped with school had she needed it. She's so much family that when the mom got a tattoo with her kids names on it my sister's was included.
This is me with my "brother"- he was my brother's best friend, but was always treated as a sibling. My real brother was socially awkward and a rule follower, "adopted bro" was a cool kid but got in trouble a lot. They fought like brothers and did everything together. If my parents had the money to help him out, I don't think anyone would've considered it as paying for a friend. Just because a relationship like this develops as an adult rather than as kids, doesn't mean it is different.
I think the writer may benefit just as much from this friendship beyond school costs. It sounds like she is missing a support/familial system and Natalie has a family that seems to really care for her. Just like our situation, my brother had someone to guide him through awkward teen stages and social circles, but his friend received a stable family relationship he could rely on. Plus, who doesn't want to be invited to family vacations in the Alps?
Post by amberlyrose on Mar 13, 2018 15:25:15 GMT -5
Against White and Asian Men:
The lawsuit alleges that for several quarters Google would not make employment offers for technical positions to applicants “who were not ‘diverse.’"
"A former recruiter for Google is suing the tech company alleging it used discriminatory hiring practices that put whites and Asians at a disadvantage to other groups — and that it fired him after he complained about it.
Arne Wilberg, who filed the lawsuit in late January in California Superior Court in San Mateo County, claims that Google carried out policies for the past several years “reflected in multiple bulletins, memorandum, charts and other documents” that favored Hispanic, African-American and female job applicants and were against white and Asian men, according to his lawsuit."
My example isn't white flight in terms of relocating to where the "good schools" are, but kids notice this stuff too. When I was in 8th grade, I figured out pretty quickly why a bunch of my classmates were heading to private high schools instead of remaining in our (at the time) junior/senior high school containing grades 7-12. Keep in mind I went to a great public high school in Westchester County, where the property taxes are so insane you have to be pretty filthy rich to pay them AND send your kids to the $$$ private schools there. But, we had a handful of black kids. Literally a handful - 5 or so in my graduating class of 65. But that was way higher than at the private schools and most public schools there, and the coded language was obvious to my 14-year-old self (and obviously it was nothing new to my black classmates). I received a great education there.
So that's what happens when white families move to the suburbs but then minorities have the nerve to relocate there for the good schools too.
I still remember one of my elementary teachers asking my (latina) mom why she was going to allow me to go to "the other school" when I was smart enough to be in the "better school". Since my mom was a teacher at the UMC white elementary, I went to school there for a year and hated it, so I chose to go to the middle school where my cousins and friends from my old elementary went, which was predominately HA/AA. It was so obvious even when I was 10. I'm glad I chose to go there and I feel like I received a better education because of it.
I will never be able to keep up with all the new food options here.
No kidding. Since having kids, I feel so behind. I used to be sort of in the know between being a foodie and working in the industry. Now I'm out of the industry, have two kids, and no money. I have no idea what's going on. lol
But ditto all of lynn07 's lunch suggestions. I think Snooze is highly overrated though.
YES. Denver Biscuit Co. alllll the way.
I'm trying to keep my calories in check so I don't eat out like I used to. I also didn't realize that being outside city center would affect my eating out tendencies as much as it has. When I lived on Champa, it was easier to go walk somewhere for dinner than it was to cook! And so many options!
I have been so fucking anxious all week, and I can't figure out why. I just have this general sense of being overwhelmed and cannot seem to shake it.
I also am trying to get serious about working out again so did a workout of HIIT and strength training with resistance bands. Uggggh. I feel SO out of shape. I am not in a happy place with my body right now.
I could've written this (almost word for word, no resistance bands).
I hate that overwhelming feeling because I just shut down and want to watch stupid movies all day.
This is the first I'm seeing of this. I've heard that the reason so many of the homes in central Denver are brick is because of fire spreading and destroying most homes in the mid-late 1800s.
Post by amberlyrose on Mar 7, 2018 18:05:49 GMT -5
That's my old neighborhood My friend was walking nearby when a car exploded. He said it went from a little smoke to major flames pretty quickly. I can't believe it was so large and burned that hot.
Thankfully we didn't have the winds we had 2 days ago or it could've been a lot worse. The wind took out my fence and those of a few neighbors.
Post by amberlyrose on Mar 7, 2018 12:02:39 GMT -5
They did a great program for International Women's Day and the conversation is so nice and refreshing. I access it through my AppleTV SkyNews app and I'm lucky enough to work from home, so I watched it live. They will be rebroadcasting the event at 8pm in London, so 3pm MT?
Also, if you have any International Women's Day events this week to share, it would be nice to have them in one central place. I think my company is broadcasting their event this Friday and have teased a few good panelists.
The price might seem crazy - but my co-worker just rented out a 250 sq ft bachelor apartment in West LA for $1400. She didn't want a kitchen because she is always eating out anyways...so something that was a similar price and had more amenities might be appealing.
I found a $1300 detached studio in El Segundo and was ecstatic. It was gone within 20 minutes of posting.
I dig this idea. It isn't going to solve the housing crisis, but it might help. If people (I imagine the single crowd) move into set ups like this, it would make standard apartments more available for families.
I wouldn't mind this set up (though I would pay the extra for a private bath, lol). As a single person, I feel like it would be a nice way to meet other people as well - better than swiping on apps at least. And I think figuring out a way to re-introduce the idea of community is great. Last week, a girl who lived in my building may have been murdered (cause is still under investigation), and since then, I have talked to 5 of my neighbors. I have lived in my apartment for 2 years and this is the first time I am speaking to any of these people - I wish it were under more pleasant circumstances, so I think this set up is kind of a great idea.
I don't think it would be for everyone, but in HCOL cities where most people are living with roommates anyways, heck yeah, lets help them build a community too.
The key here is that someone died before talking to your neighbors. Why do you think this set up would change that dynamic. It is an American culture shift that we prefer to interact on social media than with the person right in front of us.
While true for most Americans, I think people within a city in closer living situations tend to do better with this. I lived in two high rises and every month, there were mixers. So many people went and shared wine, made dinners, and genuinely conversed. I made some great friends at these events and we didn't even share a kitchen or living space. If you're forced to share living space, I'm sure you'd find 1-2 people that you would talk to on a regular basis.
I've also lived in more traditional apartments and the mixer thing never really worked out. It's just a different dynamic.
Post by amberlyrose on Mar 5, 2018 11:40:02 GMT -5
I've been hiring a ton of brand new consultants in SF and they all have been looking for something like this, even trying to find places they can share. They usually travel Monday thru Thursday/Friday and don't have time to worry about a yard, laundry, cleaning, etc. The traveling life also doesn't allow for much time to socialize, so a dorm-like community would be nice to make friends that are probably in similar careers.
Post by amberlyrose on Feb 13, 2018 18:42:28 GMT -5
I think I'm giving up FB. I'm in my last semester of grad school and need to focus anyway. I'm thinking of doing Whole30 for the last 30 days of lent, since I'll be out of the country for the first 14 days anyway. Isn't lent technically 47 days?
Post by amberlyrose on Feb 13, 2018 17:55:28 GMT -5
Just thinking on this a little more- Where do you guys search for jobs when you're PCSing? I go through a ton of spouse networks to find candidates but it's rare that someone throws it on their resume for me to search for on job sites. We're doing a huge push to hire women and the spouse community is a great resource to tap for that, but I feel like I'm always hitting a brick wall when searching.
Post by amberlyrose on Feb 9, 2018 13:19:35 GMT -5
Can't find the article, but I believe over the summer we talked about a company that was training white men instead of training minorities and women about how to deal with diversity in the work place. Does anyone remember the company name or the article?
For those of you who are still living the military life, I did just start working with a recruiter called Serving Talent. It was created by military spouses with the intent of finding jobs (both local and remote) for military/foreign service spouses. My experience so far has been a positive one.
Can I get their information? I'd love to figure out a partnership with them.
Post by amberlyrose on Feb 8, 2018 17:43:15 GMT -5
I actually work in this space and am the military spouse recruiter for my company. It's amazing how many people don't think about the trailing spouse and their careers. I'm glad that Kaine is putting this forward because when things happen at the federal level, they roll into the private sector.
Also- if you are a military spouse, make sure you follow Military Spouse Employer Partnership. They are our largest partner in this space and they do a great job. RecruitMilitary will do 2-3 virtual career fairs dedicated to spouses each year and I'm always in attendance
Post by amberlyrose on Feb 6, 2018 12:35:02 GMT -5
Mandy Moore was brilliant. She and Milo play off each other so well. I told DH that I refuse to watch any episode without him or a dog to cuddle because it's too rough on my own.
As a fellow reserved "boring" person I think that's something that draws me to Kate as well. And I think that's really good point about Will being drawn to Kate because she is clearly not going to bring the media into their lives.
I do think part of what makes Harry tick is that he doesn't have the crown over his head which leads to him being a bit more laid back and looking for a match to that.
I wonder if some of that is being the heir versus the spare? I mean, at this point Harry and Meghan get all the perks of being royals without the specter of the crown looming over their futures. I’d be a lot more carefree too lol!
I do wonder if some of Kate’s fashion discomfort relates to being future Queen Consort and trying to seem so timeless it becomes bland and also not offend people like her GMIL when she does branch out.
Honestly, I think it’s just sheer personality, which of course for William and Harry are tied to their future roles but I don’t think for Kate it’s that conscious. I think she’s just naturally more reserved. One of the reasons I follow her as much as I do is bc she reminds me of myself - minus the gorgeous hair and royal husband lol. But I get the impression she is outgoing and talkative when she feels comfortable but I think she still feels somewhat awkward or even anxious at some of these events, maybe an introvert to some degree. I’m very talkative and loud but the thought of going to some of those events that she has to do makes me feel sick to my stomach.
So I do think she tries to be above reproach in behavior and such, and Harry has more freedom there, but I also think that she just comes across as somewhat staid and boring because that’s just her personality in these kinds of crowds. There’s a reason she seems so much more fun in certain settings.
I also think Kate does try to copy the Queen in many ways but I think she tries to copy the Queen now. The queen in her 20s and 30s wore strapless dresses, glamorous jewelry, etc.
I also think this is why William likes her. He didn't want someone who would invite the press into their personal lives. I love Diana, but she also invited the press to invade her private life quite a bit. Fergie was too much of a personality. I think William and Harry found the perfect partners to match their personalities and their experiences growing up.